We all did something when we were young that we are not proud of; something that we would not even dare sit our children down and tell them about it. Or maybe we did not do something when we had a chance to. I have never gotten in trouble, but I did a lot of stupid things. What I have learned is to never let your past stop you from doing something right now.
I have learned that now is all I have. I still have a chance to do something. Dwelling on the past is not going to take me where I want to be. I used to hate myself for quitting my internship on Wall Street. I had two jobs. I was going to college. I was overwhelmed, and I decided that quitting the internship was the right thing to do, even after I was promised a job in three months. I started to regret it after I graduated from college. I had a degree in computer software with no job. I graduated from college in 2004, but I did not get a real job until 2008, when I opened my clothing store on Ebay. I was not making five thousand dollars a month, but I made enough to pay the bills. Opening my Ebay store made me realize that I could still do something. I did do something, and I did it all by myself, with my own money. My life took an unexpected turn. A turn that forced me to do something I never thought that I could do alone.
I have absolutely no regrets. I know there are things that I could’ve done differently, but I also know that there is no way I can go back to fix them. What I can do now is teach my children and other people around me how to avoid those mistakes and move forward. Shoulda-Coulda-Woulda does not stop time, nor does it bring it back. Leave the past behind and focus on the future. There is no point killing yourself over something that you cannot change.
Hey girl awesome…you are so right. Thanks for telling your story iys very inspirational. I hope you stay encouraged.
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Truth. Most times I tend to think back and regret. But I am trying very hard to look forward, push myself, make things work and be happy. Awesome write up Nerline!
Pushing yourself is the way to go. You have the power within you. Thanks, Onyeka!
Amen! Thanks for sharing. Life may not be the way that you thought it would be, but it is the way that it's supposed to be.
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I love that, KLP! You give me strength.
It sounds like life is happening for you in an awesome way! It's a journey never knowing where it will lead but you grow and learn everyday and maybe end up right where you were meant to be!!! No regrets is a great philosophy! Regret will hold us all back and keep us from enjoying what we have! Great post my friend! You made me think;) XO
Thanks, Kendra. I could not have said it better myself!
it is very true,there is no point in having regrets.
just to focus on the future.
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Focus on the future:-) That's what we should all do.
Totally agree Nerline, I love your quote: "What I can do now is teach my children and other people around me how to avoid those mistakes and move forward"!!!
Think positive and… good luck darling!!!!
Thanks, Paola!
So true dear. Even i was dwelling on past and losing my peace of my mind, Then I suddenly realised I am wasting what I have by thinking about the past and it is time to change and move on.
Great lesson! Some people spend so much time dwelling on their past, they do not live the life they could in the present.